Home and the Human Body

It is said that a home is where your heart is found. A structure made up of wood, plaster and nails placed upon a concrete foundation is just a house and does not become a home until one dwells inside it. It is then that within these walls love, hope and dreams reside and the walls become alive, buzzing with memories, laughter, tears and anger that will last a lifetime whether one is living in that house or another. In similarity to the human body, it is merely a framework of bones, organs and muscles joined together, it is when blood begins pumping out of our heart into the veins, air begins flowing in and out of our lungs and our soul dwells within that it has life. Once the heart stops beating and one takes his or her final breath it is when the memory of the person that once resided in it that is remembered not the empty body that lays there.
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Pictured above is our kitchen. I find it to be the grand central station of every home I have lived and most that I have visited. It is a vibrant place full of non stop activities of all hours of the day. There are places in your home like your den that you could go days, weeks and even months without stepping foot in, not your kitchen it is the place that everyone is at. Just like the brain, the hub of the human body, it is a place where nutrients are stored and delivered throughout. It is a place of communication, not only with spoken words during family meal times but also a calendar and bulletin board placed upon the refrigerator giving us reminders of what needs to be done today and where everyone in the home will be at.  Without this communication a home could become a disaster.

Living the American Dream and the Pursuit of Happiness

The children were outside, laughing and playing with a gently used soccer ball that was given to them by a recent group of visitors. Their clothes that they were wearing were dirty and mismatched, their hair was lacking any kind of style, and their shoes were not any special brand name specifically designed for the sport. Their home was cramped with very little furnishings inside. The cupboard only stored a few basic items and the village’s water supply came from a well a few miles away. The father worked extremely long hours every day for just a few dollars each week, the mother weaved baskets by hand so that her children could have the required uniform for school, and they walked everywhere as their only means of transportation in this family of seven was a dated bicycle. One day an American woman visited the area on a mission’s trip to share her Christian faith with these people along with her church. At first sight, she immediately began to comment to the others about how terrible she felt for these poor children and their families. They were lacking so much stuff; she was in such disbelief in that people could actually live this way. It was through her American cultured eyes that she saw an issue with the fact that they had no cars to drive, no paved roads, no telephones, no beautiful decorations filling their homes, and no televisions. These people knew no different in their way of life, just as when we were children, we too knew no different. It is only when we were introduced to the American culture through advertising and the media that we begin to believe these things that we need in order to be happy and it is then that we begin to pursue living the alleged American dream. Although advertisements and the media will have one believing otherwise, happiness is not gained when we have everything we want, it is found when we have discovered that we have everything we need.
Watch a program on television, drive down the highway, listen to the radio, read a magazine, turn on the computer, walk down the store aisles, and there they are. Advertisements that are trying to appeal to us consumers to the point that we feel that this American dream is not just a luxury, but it is an absolute necessity. One writer for the New York Times states that “an average American living in a city sees up to 5,000 advertisements a day” (Story). Each one of them, the manufacturers that create the products, the companies that buy them and the marketers that are selling them, are telling us what it is that we should be eating, what we should be drinking, what we need to be wearing, what car to be driving and even the kind of things we should be thinking about. In an interview with Sut Jhally, the professor of communication at the University of Massachusetts-Amherst she points out:
Our culture has simply become an adjunct to the system of production and consumption.Its job is to sell us things, and as it does that, it impacts how we think about the world and ourselves. For example, if you think about the ritual surrounding courtship and marriage, and the role of diamonds in those rituals. The idea that “diamonds are forever,” and how they are connected to engagement is now almost universal in the West. Yet, where did this idea come from? Well, it emerged as an ad slogan in 1947 from Madison Avenue. So “diamonds are forever” is perhaps the most famous advertising slogan ever invented. That slogan, that idea that comes out of Madison Avenue, now defines the way that we think
about rituals that define our most personal activities, marriage and courtship.(“Advertising& the End of the World”)
Although we are consciously unaware of many of these advertisements and do our best to ignore them by using commercial times for bathroom breaks and making snacks, changing the radio station after the song is over, passing over the full ad page in a magazine or closing the pop-up windows on the computer screen, these ideas and beliefs still have a way of manipulating their way into our lives through the television programs and movies that we are intently watching. Television shows like Sex in the City and Friends are two examples of many that display young people living life to its fullest and way beyond their means with no consequences. Carrie Bradshaw, a character on Sex in the City, is a columnist writer living in downtown New York City with an incredible closet filled with the cutest clothes in the latest of fashions and the best shoes, who never misses an opportunity to be eating at a fine dining establishment or partying with her friends in one of the most popular night club’s. Rachel and Monica, two characters on Friends, shared an extremely large apartment in Manhattan. Instead of working to take care of themselves, they spent a majority of their time at the downstairs coffee shop, Central Perk, socializing with their friends. It is extremely easy to wrap oneself up in a dream world watching these shows each and every week, what young woman would not want to literally be in Bradshaw’s shoes?
Advertisements and the media are now “inside our intimate relationships, inside our homes, inside our heads and inside our identities” (Jhally), yet all too often Americans find themselves working overtime to pay the bills, stressing about how to make it to the next paycheck, living in debt with several credit cards maxed out, and yet they are still continuing to search for happiness. Even though they want us to believe that having all this stuff is the answer to all of our dreams and woes, trying to live the American dream can be exhausting and at the end of the day we find our homes to be full of clutter and we are full of low self-esteem, loneliness, boredom, dissatisfaction, and depression. David M. Carter, a graduate of the Master of Applied Positive Psychology Program at the University of Pennsylvania explains what is happening here:
Experts in the field call it referencing. We reference, either intentionally or otherwise, to lifestyles represented to us in the media that we find attractive. We create a vision of ourselves living this idealized lifestyle, and then behave in ways that help us to realize the vision. The problem with this process is that the lifestyles most often portrayed, and ultimately referenced, are well beyond the means of all but a very small percentage of Americans. We aspire to something that the vast majority of us cannot possibly achieve.And, in this attempt to realize our aspirations, we borrow heavily, feel poorly about ourselves because we just can’t seem to get there, and become addicted to a way of living that gradually and inexorably separates us from the things in life that bring us the most joy (Get Rich Slowly).
What is it that will bring us this happiness? Happiness is found when we begin to discover that we have everything we need. I agree with Shasta Ballard when she stated, “I think as Americans we do take needed things for granted” (Blackboard). In our pursuit of the American dream we seem to look past all that we have right in front of us. It is these simple things food, water, shelter; safety, community, family, and friendships are where happiness lies. When we choose not to recognize the difference in what we need and what we want there is truth in Bill McKibben’s claim, “that we’ve officially run out of things that we need, but even of things that we might plausibly desire” (558). We begin to seek new things to create happiness, buying into all the lies the media feeds us. When one product fails, we move on to the next and we have thousands of storage facilities full of these failed products to prove it. It has been stated by the Self Storage Association that, “the United States has 2.3 billion square feet of self-storage space, that is more than seven square feet for every man, woman and child. Storage units were meant to be transitional places to keep belongings while moving, marrying, divorcing or dealing with a death in the family. But one out of every ten households in the country rents a unit simply to store the extra stuff that does not fit in our doubled in sized homes” (Mooallem). We continue to draw into that desire that when we have everything needed we will be happy and since we are not happy we conclude that we do not have everything that we need so we continue to buy more stuff. But it is our perception of a need that is all wrong, according to his hierarchy of needs, a motivational theory in psychology; Abraham Maslow detailed basic needs of all humans. The basic needs identified by Maslow were characterized within five different groups of needs. “Physiological needs which include air, food, water, sex and sleep, these are the most basic and instinctive of our needs, all other needs are secondary until these have been met. Safety needs which include security of one’s environment, employment, resources, personal property and health. Social needs, which include love, friendship, intimacy and family. After the first three needs have been satisfied the esteem needs become increasingly important, these include confidence, achievement and respect. Self-actualization needs, the highest level, which includes morality, creativity and problem solving” (”Toward a psychology of being”). These five needs are strongly correlated with being happy, not all of the stuff on the market, that moment that one can identify this truth, is when everything changes.
After the American woman spent some time with those in the village, she began to notice more things that these people did not have, there was no depression, no boredom, and no low self-esteem. As her American cultured eyes slowly began to come off, she also noticed that everything they needed was within miles of them so there was no need for them to have a car, nor was there a need for paved roads. Family and friends lived within the village so there was no need for them to have a telephone. The homes were full of necessity items instead of clutter, so a larger one was not needed. The children were able to find entertainment with one another in visiting, reading books, and playing games outside so even a television set was not needed. Once she saw that the people were full of happiness and love she stopped looking at what was on the outside and began to look on the inside. She took a moment of personal reflection and began to notice that these people in the village were not the ones that were living without the things that they needed, she realized that it was her that was actually missing something. All of her life, the advertisements and the media had her believing that she would only be able to achieve happiness when she had everything that she wanted, but in that village, she began to discover that she had everything that she needed except the gratitude for all that she had.
Works Cited
 Ballard, Shasta. “Task 8: A New Ethics of Consumption.” BlackBoard. N.p., 17 June 2014.                Web.28 June 2014.
Carter, David M. “The Psychology of Consumerism.” Weblog post. Get Rich Slowly. J.D.                Roth, 8 June 2011. Web. 28 June 2014.
Jhally, Sut. Advertising & the End of the World. Northhampton: Media Education
Foundation, 1997. PDF.
Maslow, A. H. Toward a  psychology of being (3rd ed.). New York: John Wiley & Sons, 1998.
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McKibben, Bill. “SkyMall: Pie in the Sky.” Convergences: Themes, Texts, and Images for
Composition
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Mooallem, Jon. “The Self-Storage Self.” NY Times. New York Times, 6 Sept. 2009. N. page.
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Story, Louise. “Anywhere the Eye Can See, It’s Likely to See an Ad.” The New York Times.            N.p., 15 Jan. 2007. Web. 28 June 2014.
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Home Defined

In the late seventies and early eighties, I was raised in a very small rundown house placed within my family’s blueberry field in the Puyallup Washington Valley. A once beautiful four room farm house built in the early 1900’s that was cut down to size to make room for a freeway in 1937. The remaining portion consisted of the main room, indoor porch, bathroom and attic. The main room included the kitchen area, sitting area and sleeping area. A wood burning stove was our only source of heat, the way we cooked our meals, and how we heated water for dishes, laundry, and baths. We used kerosene lamps for light and we had an old black and white television set connected to a car battery to entertain us. I recall several times not being able to finish watching a television program due to the battery dying; we would have to wait until dad recharged it so that we could turn the television back on. We stored non-perishable food items in the cupboards on the indoor porch along with all the canning jars of left-over food and blueberries; blueberry jam, blueberry jelly, blueberry spread, blueberry pie filling, dried blueberries, and much more. With no electricity, the refrigerator in the main room was where I housed my toys and perishable food such as cottage cheese, sour cream, milk, though it was the dreaded powdered milk that we used most often, and the like was purchased in small quantities on the day we would partake of them. The walls were discolored from age, the smoke from the wood stove, and my parent’s bad indoor smoking habit. The floors were made of old linoleum that was ripped in different places, especially the center of the main room where I practiced roller skating on all of those rainy days. The bathroom was a dark, cold space right off of the main room, which made bathing an almost impossible task in the winter. I remember having to bathe in a small tin bath in the main room next to the wood stove during those miserable months of the year. The attic above it all housed boxes of stuff that we kept over the years, which all became ruined when the roof began to cave in and the rain flooded most of what was in there. The house’s exterior was just as damaged due to the normal wear and tear of a house that was reaching its one-hundredth birthday with very little maintenance and upkeep. This house owned by my grandmother, was supposed to be temporary until my dad was able to get on his feet and had the ability to get us into a better one; however it was not until my dad’s last year of life that he finally succeeded in leaving that poor old miserable house.  Though the house I grew up in was small in size and lacking much, my home on the other hand was larger than life. A house is merely a structure, whereas a home is where the heart resides and we will find that for many they can have one without the other.
A house is simply a structure for people to live, to eat and to sleep in. The purpose of it is to provide protection from outdoor dangers like bad weather, wild animals and crime. Houses typically present the culture, style of living, and the traditions of the people who live in them. Houses come in all shapes and sizes and they are built out of numerous different materials depending on factors such as the location, climate, and availability of the building materials. A house is typically constructed with wood, steel, brick, stone or concrete, however in places like Northern Africa, Mexico, and Southern United States one will find some of the houses are built of Adobe, which is a mixture of sand, clay, and water. In the article entitled Back to Earth I found that, “in these extreme desert climate areas, ranging from extremely hot days to unbearably cold nights the adobe bricks have the ability to withstand a large amount of heat before leaking into the house by absorbing it within the walls. So by the time the temperature begins to drop at night, the walls will start warming the inside of the home since it takes a full day for the heat to permeate through the adobe brick keeping those living inside comfortable all day long” (Smith).  A house is not limited to people. We create little houses for our pets to sleep in and build large barns for our animals living on the farm. Wild animals, not fortunate enough for a person to create such a space, make shelters of their own with the materials that are available to them.
A home is where the heart resides. The character Dorothy in the movie Wizard of Oz was not clicking the heels of her ruby red slippers telling all those in munchkin land there is no place like her house because of what it was made of or that it protected her from bad weather, mostly because she would not have been in Oz if it had, but she was repeating the words, “there is no place like home, there is no place like home, there is no place like home” because of what home meant to her. Dorothy’s home was not perfect, in fact she found herself wishing to be living far from it, somewhere over the rainbow. Through her experiences in the Land of Oz, she is taught valuable lessons about home, one of which she confesses to Glinda, “if I ever go looking for my heart’s desire again, I won’t look any further than my own backyard; because if it isn’t there, I never really lost it to begin with” (Wizard of Oz). A home is where one grows up, a venue where one finds love for the first time, the corner of the world that one experiences hope, a site of laughter, and the point on a map that one’s dreams begin. A home is a place of learning and a safe place to practice taking risks. A home is a place where you do not have to pretend you are something you are not, a place one can be who they really are and a place to find out what that is. A home can be as simple as a mother’s lap or a father’s arms. A home is a shelter of safety that one can return to again and again physically or in memory. Friend and blogger Jamie Huster describes this idea of home best in her recent blog post entitled Farewell Portland:
Portland has historically been a bittersweet place for me, over the last year it has really taken a hold of my heart. The reason I moved to Portland was for residency, most of my waking time was spent at work, and a lot of my stuff remained packed up because I never really had a chance to settle in.  Home didn’t really feel like home, it was just the place I slept between shifts. There were quite a few struggles during residency, and I never got to appreciate Portland for what it really was. It wasn’t until I met my husband that I actually started getting to know the community. I learned about pok-pok, Touche, bicycling the esplanade, St. Johns, food carts, Andina, Clyde Common, batting cages, snowshoeing, and the wonders of the nude beach at Sauvie Island. I finally unpacked my belongings and my house became my little family’s home. I found friends in places I’d never imagine, ones that will see me through to the bitter end. Now Portland is my home. I’m a Nevada girl and always will be, but it only serves to add to the culture of Portland. (Doc of the Day)
A house and a home are not equally defined and for those thousands of Americans that are living without a house, are they really homeless or would those millions who are living in broken houses due to child abuse and domestic violence actually be those with such a label? In response to what a home and to what a house is I would have to say that it is a man, woman or child living under the evil of another human being that keeps one from experiencing a home life and are technically speaking homeless. They may have a shelter over their head and may stay there because there is no where else to go, but there is no love and no hope residing within those cold, dark walls and the only dreams one will find are those dreams of the days that the violence stops and the nightmare ends. A person who is without a house may not find shelter from the cold, rain and wind, however, can still find the comfort of home within when placed with those he or she loves and cares for. I knew a family who were without a house and found shelter inside a tent in the woods. The mom and her children stayed there a few months until they were able to earn enough money and had the ability to find an affordable home, but for the time they lived in the tent it was their home. The child who is now grown would never share that he was ever homeless, for he was in the safety and care of his mother, older sister and brother. It was not until he reached adulthood that he even knew that he was without a house and thought of the time living in the tent as a big long family adventure!
The house I grew up in was torn down and the hundreds of blueberry trees were ripped out of the ground nine years ago this summer and since replaced with a modern day makeshift housing development, so I am no longer able to return to that place. But there are times that I sit back and close my eyes; I can still smell the smoke coming from the wood burning stove. I can still taste the blueberries that have been simmering all day long, even though I avoid eating them as an adult. I can see the smiles on my families faces at the end of a football game that we watched cuddled together tightly on the couch trying to view the small black and white television. I can hear the words of my grandmother telling me yet another story of days past as we clean the recently picked blueberries. I can imagine the feeling of softness of my mom’s warm touch as I climb on her lap and the roughness of my dad’s hard-working hands as he wraps his arms around me.  I remember the good days full of laughter, hopes, dreams and love. I remember the bad days full of tears, frustration and anger. All of those moments and all of those days are with me forever, wherever I may go as a home is where the heart resides and my heart is inside of me.
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Everyone will be world famous for 15 minutes

Our culture can be created in 140 characters or less. One tweet that travels across the World Wide Web within seconds can create a trend, causing mass media on a particular event or idea. Andy Warhol stated that, “In the future, everyone will be world famous for 15 minutes.” (Convergences, p586) and if you have the right trending hashtag on Twitter he is correct.

I personally had my fifteen minutes of fame last November /December. Late one evening I was searching trends on Twitter trying to gather my thoughts on what to write about on Examiner.com, I caught interest to the hashtag trending #PaulWalkerDied. I immediately googled it and found that saddening news of what occurred earlier this day and I decided to share a story I liked regarding Paul Walker and his daughter. Once the article was published I shared it in a tweet, included the trending hashtag and I went to bed. The next morning I could not believe what my eyes were seeing when I checked my google analytic statistics! Over 15,000 hits to my article occurred while I was sleeping! Since I am paid per hit of my articles I was ecstatic. This article was in the top ten articles for almost the entire month of December and I was one of the top ten writers on Examiner.com. Even after the trend on Twitter disappeared the hits continued to come. During this time not only did this article flourish but other articles did as well. I am just a stay-at- home mom in little ol’ Twin Falls, Idaho and overnight I became a “celebrity” due to the power of social media. My thoughts traveled across the World Wide Web and made people around the world smile.

Social media within our culture is extremely powerful. Thoughts, values, rumors, ideas and much more can be shared and people’s lives can be changed within just minutes.

What I Wore: Final Classroom Field Experience

Today i wore a brown sweater I purchased at the DI along with a pink & brown polka-dot dress also purchased at the DI. Brown Boots purchased at the Deb.
Today, I wore a brown sweater along with a pink & brown polka-dot dress both purchased at the DI.
Brown Boots purchased at the Deb.

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Why Kids Lie?



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